When you look back on your journey, do you ever marvel at all the people you had to meet and things you had to learn to get here?
Maybe you met a person that changed your life - like a spouse or business partner. Maybe you discovered some amazing technology or process that made your life easier, or helped your business get started or grow.
We rarely pause to consider that, in the moment before you discovered this person or thing, you had no idea how you were going to take the next step.
- Right before you met your partner, you knew you wanted to fall in love, but had no idea how.
- Right before you got your first client, you knew you wanted to start a business, but didn't know how.
- Right before you found a tribe of entrepreneurs to join, you knew you needed support, but you didn't know how to find it.
The point is this: We can all do a better job of focusing on the what. Instead, we like to wallow in the "how," and beat ourselves up for not knowing exactly how to get from where we are to where we want to go.
Focusing on the what has two benefits:
- You release yourself from having to know "how." If you don't know how, then forgive yourself and get over it.
- If you're focused on what, instead of obsessing over how, you'll be more likely to remain open-minded to whatever opportunity arises. You'll think, hm...maybe this networking event is how? I better go. Or, hm...maybe this class will teach me how, so I might as well take it.
That's very different than thinking, as I so often see, well...I don't know how. I'm a loser. It'll never happen. Better sit on my couch and gorge myself on nachos and salsa for the rest of the night.
If I've learned anything, it's that admitting what we don't know is a powerful thing. Sometimes I have no idea how I'm going to do something, but I know what my goal is. Maybe I'll find out how today, maybe tomorrow. But I will someday. And once I do, I'm sure I'll conveniently forget that I ever struggled to figure out the clear, obvious, how.
That's just how it is.